Wednesday, November 26, 2008
Imagine if you can, a couple that love each other absolutely. They know it in their hearts, they feel it in their bones. Yet they are incompatible in some fundamental ways. They fight, they make each other sad, and they may even believe as many do that that love is not enough. At what point does this couple say, enough is enough? My favorite movie of all time is "The Mexican" starring Julia Roberts and Brad Pitt. They are exactly this kind of couple. At one point in the movie, Julia asks Brad this question, and Brad answers "Never". Many years ago I dated a man (as opposed to what? a fish? hehe). We disagreed more often than is healthy and grew increasingly gifted at making each other miserable. Once he excitedly begged me to watch the movie and listen to the answer to the question, when do you give up? He described it as our story. I complied and fell hard for the idea of never giving up. As it turned out, he didn't believe in what I had swallowed whole. He gave up on us some months later, but the message stayed with me; I'm still the kind of person who never ever gives up working towards having a life with the person (s) I love. What about you?